Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Create the life you love

If you must work, work at something you love rather than something you hate!

You may have heard the saying;
"Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life", Confucius

If you create the life you love and the career that fills you with purpose imagine the possibility of never having to work another day in your life, what kind of life would this be for you and your family? What would this feel like to go to work on your dreams everyday? Just sit for a moment and ponder the idea.

Every day is a day of purpose for me, I am living the life of contribution that I was meant to live. How do I know this? Each day feels just right, I am inspired and creative and always looking to do it better. Even when their is adversity or something isn't going the way I planned I still love what I do. My career is aligned with my values and internally I feel balanced. Their are times when I am not feeling so balanced and this is generally when I am doing something that isn't aligned with my purpose, so I become conscious of this and then realign to get back to what I love doing.

When you know what your purpose is life becomes easier because you are living it every day and when you are not living your purpose you can feel out of balance, or unnatural in your environment. Being in balance can feel peaceful and aligned even when you face challenges in life.

For me........... I am in balance when I am doing the work I love, making a contribution, eating well, sleeping well and exercising. This is not hard to achieve when you know what your purpose is. 

Take a look at the 7 signs and decide which one is your experience, hopefully you are already living the life you love.
7 Signs you are living your purpose:

      1.       You love every day that you work in your chosen career

      2.       You are passionate about getting the results you desire

      3.       Time doesn’t matter its just a number on the clock

      4.       You have ideas and share them with the team

      5.       Your future focused

      6.       Challenges are just a hurdle to overcome

      7.       You can think of 50 things you love about your career

7 Signs you are not living your purpose:

      1.       You wake up on Monday morning and feel dread or stress

      2.       You count down the hours each day

      3.       You’re not passionate about what you do in your 9-5 day

      4.       You work each day to stay under the radar

      5.       You don’t contribute to ideas as you don’t see the point

      6.       You think obstacles mean someone is out to get you

      7.       You can’t come up with 10 things you love about your career

 If you find that you are living your life's purpose then WELL DONE!

If you found that you are not living your life's purpose then maybe its time to realign and head in the right direction. As Dr Wayne Dyer would say "Its time to go home".

In my next Blog I will talk about ways to discover your purpose and develop an action plan to create the life you love and the Career that lights you up!

Till then live passionately, we only get one shot.

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Create a New Story

You can create a compelling future if you change your old story!

Does your story hold you back from a great future?

Does your story keep you trapped in the negative emotion?

Have you thought about a new story?

It doesn't matter what kind of past we have had, we can always create a compelling future. I am not saying that the past doesn't hurt or that the past isn't important, because it is very important. The past should be that check in point of what we may not want to create in our future. The past can be learned from and a great benchmark for where we want to go in the future, however we shouldn't focus on  what we don't want anymore without having a clear vision for what we do want.

From personal experience I have a lot of great lessons from my past and of course like many we may also have pain from the past. I also have some amazing experiences and great achievements in my past that I continue to build on. I was very good at telling my story and using it as an excuse as to why I didn't do something or why I failed. I realised that every time I told the story I felt the emotion and lived that time again, I was stuck there for as long as I kept telling the story and feeling the pain. This was very detrimental to my children as I made excuses for them. "If I didn't get divorced they wouldn't be like that, if I didn't work so much they wouldn't be acting up. If I loved them more he wouldn't have taken drugs......the list just goes on and on and the guilt increased and the blame gets bigger.

When I stopped telling the story and opening up wounds, I started to heal, I was able to clear the fog and release shame and guilt and more importantly love myself again. When I say again I mean we started out in this life with love and joy, compassion and empathy, somewhere along the road of life this can turn in to anger, sadness and guilt which are some of the most debilitating emotions, especially if you live there daily. Their is a great talk on Vulnerability that just shifted my thinking and is very enlightening. The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown    
The work I am in allows me exposure to many diverse cultures and I am exposed to many stories of trials and tribulations in peoples lives, some more traumatic than others but non the less everyone has their own experience and feels their own level of emotion.Yesterday is just that....yesterday, you cant not go back to yesterday and you certainly can not change yesterday, today is the present moment we live in and every minute we are living in the now. Tomorrow is yet to come so isn't that a great opportunity to decide what tomorrow will be like? I can wake up and decide, no matter what I choose to be happy....no matter what I choose to love and embrace myself.

No matter what, today I choose to..............? Today I will.................? I am most grateful for................?

What is the new story, what do you want the future to be like, look like, feel like? you get to decide. It doesn't matter what others say or do you still get to choose your day, week, month and year! Evidence of this is in many lives such as Victor Frankle's - Mans search for meaning. or Nick Vujicic - No Arms No Legs No Worries. if you look you will find many examples of many people choosing their story, creating a compelling future.

The past is behind you so leave it there!

I once used the analogy of riding a motor bike, I don't ride a motor bike but an old friend of mine does. He was often living in fear about life and what may happen to him in the future based on his past experiences. He often lived in the past which in some cases was very painful. I asked him "when your riding your motor bike how often do you look in the rear view mirror"?  he said that when he was in a built up area this was often, but when he was out on the open road he rarely looked it was just a glance every now and then. I will never forget the connection he made to what I told him next. I said "think of life like riding on the open road, glancing back only briefly to check that your not living in the past and you are creating the future that you want"

Look in the mirror!

What do you see when you look in the mirror? 
I often ask people at a workshop about self esteem and self confidence, what they see when they look in the mirror and some of the replies are astounding.
I don't look.....I don't like what I see, who looks at them-self? 
We are happy to tell our children we love them, yet we don't tell our self, to me this is a little hypocritical. Love starts from within, to love yourself is to love everyone and if we cant love our self how can we teach our children or others.  
Take the time to look in the mirror and tell your new story, be clear about who you are and what you want the future to be like. I often ask someone I am working with what they would like, what kind of job, what they would like their home environment to be like or what kind of relationships they would like to have with their spouse or their children and 9 times out of 10 they start by telling me what they don't want. When I ask the question again " what do you want, what does it look like, feel like or even sound like, and they say "I don't know". 

I ask you this, "If you don't know what you want, how can you create it in your future"? 

Create your story! It doesn't matter if it changes over time just start with being Grateful for what you have and where you are, start the day with thoughts of joy, admire the sky and the beautiful day, if you drive a car be grateful for that, if you have a roof over your head be grateful for that, food on the table and the warmth of the sun. We have many things that we can choose to be grateful for.

Then start to have a vision about your future, what will it look like, what will it feel like, your home, your job, your relationships with people. then each day take action toward creating it, and remember baby steps can lead to greatness. action each day will produce what you want. Compounding each day to get the results of your efforts. 

Compounding results

If I workout 3 times a week I will get more results that if I didn't workout at all. If I read a book a week or a month I will learn more than if I didn't read at all. If I eat good food that nourishes my mind and body I will get the results that I desire. 
Action in the right direction of my future story will support my success.

On the 1st of July we are starting a workshop for "Creating a New Story" we will post some excerpts from these workshops in future Blogs. Thank you for reading and please leave comments.

Donna Moulds

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Expand your mind with a good book.

What are you reading? Does it empower and inspire you?

I do understand their may be a reason to read the newspaper and listen to the news, but filter it. If you only listen to negativity it will make you feel negative, have a balance of what you read and allow into your experience. We have even more information coming into our lives than ever before. Social media can be a great tool for many reasons however like anything we must filter what we read and listen to if we want to stay focused.   

With technology today we are not limited to having to read a hard copy book, we have kindles and audio books, a cd in the car or a download to our computer, tablet or iPad, or as I do my phone. Apple has iBook’s and we are unlimited to how we access books today. If reading a book isn’t your thing try audio programs and the great news is we have free access to Libraries!

As an avid book reader myself I am always on the lookout for new books that I am inspired by or a book that helps me nut out a problem I may be facing. I have read many and have built up a wonderful library over the years. I also love to loan out the books to others who may not have built up a library but want to read a good book to help them in life or business.
Currently I am reading “Thrive” by Arianna Huffington (Huffington Post) and it has provided me with great confirmation of what I knew about the importance of sleep and meditation, among other facts that have been scientifically proven to assist with stress reduction general well being and creativity. She talks extensively about disconnecting from our phones and reconnecting with our loved one's and being present and in the moment.
The truly amazing fact is I found this book on the 6th April 2014 whilst on my way to Darwin feeling totally burned out and Arianna had her wake up call exactly 7 years before on the 6th April 2007. She was 2 years in Huffington Post and I was just getting started.

Another book I am almost finished is “The Secrets of my Success, and the story of Boost Juice” Janine Allis and it has some great insights into business success from someone who is successful and happy to share the key ingredients, as she puts it in her book. Very honest bits from both Janine and Jeff her true life partner in business and love.  

This book is easy to read and full of valuable lessons and again this reminds me of all the mistakes we have to make before we get it right. I think all too often we don't believe we should make mistakes yet this is what makes the successes more valuable.

A good friend of mine asked “Who will I leave my collection when I die?” To be honest I had not thought about that till then, but it is actually a substantial collection. Including a very old edition of the, “Laws of Success” by Napoleon Hill and a signed copy of the “Seasons of Life” Jim Rohn. Books that I am very proud to have in my collection. I also have a number of great Audio programs to feed my University in the car addiction.

Note to self, add library to the will………

moving on…… I love to hear stories about what someone is reading and why (if they do) they love it so much or what did it bring to their life. One of my previous Students read "7 habits of highly effective teenagers". The feedback from her was amazing and I know that the book impacted changes in her life in very positive way. Another student has discovered the power of University in the car for her long drives to Albury, Cate especially loves Jim Rohn’s weekend seminar from 2004.

I would love to know the answer to some questions:
What are you reading?
Or what have read recently?
What learning's has it brought to your life?
What has it inspired you to do or stop doing?

I have read many books but some of the most powerful books have been the Four Agreements Don Miguel Ruiz, The Success Principles, Jack Canfield, Excuses Begone, Dr Wayne Dyer, The Gifts of imperfection and Daring Greatly, Brene Brown. There are so many that I love and often go back to in tough times.

Books have inspired me to learn from my many business and personal mistakes and given me insight to find alternative solutions, embrace the learning's and forgive myself and move on. They have given me drive and inspiration to keep going in tough times and also to motivate others. I will forever read and obtain ideas on how I can continue my growth and knowledge.

I once heard a saying that has stuck with me for years now, “If you keep doing what you have always done you will keep getting what you have always got” Jim Rohn
So find an alternative if what you are doing is not working, maybe the next book can help you.

Live life abundantly and remember happiness is a choice, so choose each day to be happy and smile at a stranger it may be the only smile they see that day.

Donna Moulds

Sunday, January 5, 2014

You get what you focus on, what will you want to focus on in 2016?

Setting SMART Goals and creating a compelling Vision Board are great steps towards your dreams coming true.

If you have done any personal or professional development in your life you will know that you get what you focus on. Focusing on your dreams and seeing them each day is one of the most powerful planning tools you can create.Below is a Blog I wrote a couple of years ago, however the concept and action steps to take are still the same and still as powerful as ever.

A clear vision can help you stay focused on what your want. Think about a time when you were looking to buy a car or another item, once you decided that was the item/car, the color or the style you started to see this same one everywhere. This is because it was in your awareness. Once something is in your awareness its starts to appear, it was probably always there but you never saw it until you decided.

Our level of consciousness about what we want changes and we can become very focused on getting that thing once we commit. The decisions you make can easily change to support what you want and you start to create ways in which you can achieve what you want much faster than before.
Imagine how a vision board can help you stay focused, imagine seeing what you want every day, when you see it, feel it, even taste it, your action’s are always focused on getting it.

A Vision board is one way to create a clear picture and it doesn’t have to be a material item it could be something that you want to implement into your life, like better nutrition to support your body or meditation to reduce stress, your vision board can have pictures of programs, seminars to attend, it could also have images of places to go, like walking in the rain-forest or on the beach regularly.

Here is a sample of someone’s vision board, it can have anything that you want on it, pictures from magazines, words that inspire, time frames to achieve them Mentors that you aspire to become like. Anything that works for you is key to making it a success. Everyone needs to have their own style and ideas and it should be very personalised and clear.

So I guess you may be asking how do you get started?  Well all you need is a large piece of cardboard or a pin board and ideas. Think really deeply about what you want and just start writing down some ideas. If you want this to be a family vision board then you need to get everyone involved and have their ideas placed on the board too, however start with your dreams and think about all aspects of your life, physical, spiritual, career, financial and relationships and be clear about what you want in all areas of your life.

2 years ago I used a metaphor of a bucket list to inspire my vision board and have words coming out of a bucket, I have images of skills that I want to develop, so I found the books that can help me develop the skills and I printed a picture of the book. 

Note: An important key to remember is that this doesn’t have to cost anything for example I can go to the library and borrow a book to help me develop skills. If I want to learn how to have better health I can connect to groups that have all the information I need to get ideas.

Then go to work on your vision, each day do something towards achieving your vision for the future. One thing each day is a step in the right direction, it’s called action. You can have all the goals and the best vision board you like, however if you don’t take consistent action toward achieving them then it’s unlikely to happen. One step forward is a step in the right direction.

Last year on my Vision board I had the following goals and I have achieved them or am on my way to success.

  1. To find the love of my life and create a loving passionate kind caring relationship. I had to be all of those things to get all of those things in my life and I now have all of this.
  2. Kayak and paddle board to be in the ocean where I feel at peace  - I now have this and Kayak and paddle board every second weekend with my partner
  3. Completing my Diploma - I have completed 3 units and am well on my way to finishing this year. Slightly delayed but getting on track.
  4. A Commercial printer to help my business systems and save money
  5. More time off from the business to recharge, this has been amazing and I get more done than ever before because I value and look forward to my time out. This means I am more productive in my business and work less on weekends. This has been the best remedy for burnout.
  6. A Goal that was not on my vision board was to help my parents increase their quality of life and time away. Last year my partner and I were able to help Mum and dad do up an old van with an annex near the ocean and they now have a holiday place to enjoy. It was one of the most rewarding thing I have been able to do for my wonderful parents.
These are just some of the many goals I set and acheive each year. Give yourself the gift of achieving your dreams for yourself and your family.I am feeling more blessed every day.

If you need help setting goals or creating a vision board, contact our team and we can help you put a plan into action. You never know this could be the start of everything.We have many Goal setting workshops coming up in late January and early February.