Have you achieved every goal ever set?
Have you ever wondered why you achieve some goals and don’t achieve other goals?
You may think you don’t set goals but in one way or another we all set goals, they can be a small goals of getting somewhere on time if you are often late. It could be to get a pay rise or promotion. We set bigger goals for fitness, and exercise or to give up smoking or drinking for a Month, year or for good.
I have been setting goals since I was very young; however I am not sure that I knew I was setting goals. I would decide I wanted something or to go somewhere and then I would find a way to do it. As I have looked back over many years of doing this and also being a keen observer of others, I have noticed a few key facts that are fairly consistent.
So why do we achieve some and not others?
Let me see if I can shed some light on what I think are some of the reasons for success and failure to reach our goals.
If you fail to plan you plan to fail “Jim Rohn”
TRY and moving away from goals opposed to moving toward goals!
TRY – This word drives me crazy and is used so frequently when it is an excuse word. What I mean by that is, it lets you off the hook….. I will try to get there…..I will try to lose weight…….I will try to stop smoking…….I tried to call. Lets look at each one of these and break it down.
Someone asks you out and you say “I will try to get there” what they may have wanted to say is “I don’t want to go but if I say I will try and get there and don’t make it I know I tried
I will try and lose weight, really! How do you try, you either do lose weight by doing something differently, like walking round the block each day and eating smaller portions, or you don’t!
The last one is I tried to call…… What about, “I called and you didn’t answer” or “ I Did call and left a voicemail message”
You see I use this activity in my training…..I ask someone to try and pick up a chair, they pick it up and I say no I asked you to try, so they pretend its heavy and can’t lift it, again I say no now you didn’t pick up the chair. I often get looked at with frustration until it clicks…..You either pick up the chair or you don’t….NO TRYING! “Anthony Robbins”
Moving Away from Goals V Moving Toward Goals
If you don’t achieve your goals someone else will “Jim Rohn”
What do I mean by moving away from goals?
When you are moving away from something it is generally because you have a negative outcome where you are, so you want to move away from it. Take a heart attack for example, you may need to lose weight change your diet and exercise, which you were not doing before, hence why you have had a heart attack.
Set toward Goals with positive outcomes, let me give you an example;
I set a goal last year to walk the Kokoda track and I was specific about a number of reasons for setting this goal. I understand this is a big one however the same concept applies t small goals as well.
Smart format applied
Specific – To walk the Kokoda Track in 2012
Measurable – Researched the most reputable company to do the trek with, costed flights, trek gear and time frames that fitted in with my daughter being away on school holidays.
Achievable – A plan was required with a deadline and results focused to ensure I would be successful (it was truly achievable with a plan)
Relevant - It was relevant in a number of ways both physically and emotionally and also one of my highest values is growth “I was definitely going to grow
Timely – I had a number of deadlines and it was the perfect time in my life to do this journey
Whilst a lot more in-depth planning and reasoning behind this goal, I am sure you can see the concept. Take the time to think of a small goal you want to achieve and use the SMART format to set the goal.
I look forward to hearing about your goals and if you need any help to set goals feel free to contact Mantra Training & Development and we can help you not only set the goals, we can help you set a plan to achieve your goals.