Monday, March 28, 2011

Manage Stress In Any Situation!

What strategies work for you?
There is a lot of information out in the community, on the web and also in the workplace on stress and how to manage it.
However the first step to managing stress is, knowing what stress is for you?
What can be very resourceful is to identify when you are stressed, how you are feeling and you could also rate this for example on a scale of 1 to 10. Notice how your breathing is and if it is shallow, then you could take a few deep breaths and then see how you are feeling. Just breathing differently can make a difference.
I personally think one of the biggest mistakes we make is assuming how someone should be feeling or react to any given situation based on how we would be feeling or react. Take for example 2 people going through Divorce, how one person reacts may be very different to the other person. The stages of emotions that may be experienced will vary from person to person, or the time in which it takes for life to feel relatively normal again, if at all.
In the workplace how two people respond to work demands, deadlines and managing people will vary. Is it getting to work on time, or is it your work load, or it could be work colleagues that increase your stress levels. What we need to realise is that it is not something or someone that causes us stress it is how we perceive a situation or react to what is happening around us that creates the feeling inside.`
When a crisis happens in the world such as the Floods in Queensland, the earthquake in Christchurch or the Tsunami in Japan, this is a situation that can effect people differently, if you have family there or feel very emotional about the tragedy and lives lost you may feel stressed by this situation, however if for example you don’t have any family there and have no emotional attachment to the situation then you may not have any reaction just a feeling of empathy or sadness. Please remember people feelings and reactions are their own and not right or wrong just their feelings.
Do you really know which strategies works for you? Have you ever been told how to manage stress, use the techniques and still no results?
This may be due to the fact that you have not discovered what works for you!
Is it
  • Exercise
  • Healthy eating
  • No alcohol
  • Mediation
  • Deep breathing techniques
These are some of the tips that can be used in isolation or even combine a number of them or all of them. So what do you do when you have tried them all and nothing seems to work?
Well just like isolating what foods/preservatives don’t agree with you, you have to try some different techniques and measure what is getting a result, even a small result should be measured and when you get good results you need to keep doing that but also try other techniques to increase the outcome. Never give up.
Step 1. Identify how you are feeling (Angry, Sad, hurt, scared, uncertain)
Step 2. Ask yourself, what specifically about this situation is making me feel this way?
Step 3. Can I change the situation? Become resourceful….
Step 4. Can I change the way I perceive the situation/ is it as bad as it seems
Step 5. What strategies work that I can use right now
Step 6. Take action
Remember not to fool yourself by saying nothing works. I can’t tell you how many times I hear someone say nothing works and when you ask the question they may have tried one technique once and given up.
If you want to know more about managing stress feel free to contact us for some more information or book a session on Managing Stress with resourceful outcomes.
Till next time
Donna Moulds

Thursday, March 3, 2011

The Power Of Shared Knowledge!

So what have you learned and shared with others? please comment and share with us.
About 7 years ago I started on a personal growth journey.
When I look back, I think I was always on a journey of growth, however I wasn’t aware and 7 years ago I became very conscious of my journey and it was at this point it was more directed and purposeful.
I had this hunger and desire to learn more and then as I learned more I wanted to learn faster. The more I learned the more I wanted to learn. I was like a kid in a candy shop, I was excited and passionate, It was like I lifted the lid on something but didn’t know what it was.
My mentor at the time Dale was such a patient teacher, hard on me, but patient and only too willing to share all she had learned. This was a clear demonstration on how the power of sharing knowledge can change peoples lives. It changed mine!
Early on in the journey I wanted to tell every one everything, as I learn't it. I didn’t share what I didn’t understand as I was afraid of looking stupid. When I got it, and the lights went on, I wanted to tell the world. Even those that didn’t want to hear.
I learned about Jim Rohn and Anthony Robbins and then I started to understand Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and attended a Christopher Howard Seminar and I continued University in the car (also known as learning on the go) and found more great speakers, I borrowed books and tapes and then when I could I invested in programs, then I started meeting more like minded people who shared a similar journey to me. It was amazing to me how all this stuff was in the world and I had never experienced this before the age of 33.
Then I met another mentor Caron, who has taught me so much in such a short period of time. Not only did Caron teach me how to learn more about myself and my journey, she also showed me the art of patients, gratitude, and more importantly tapping into my inner resources. One of the many lessons that were reinforced is the Power of Sharing Knowledge.
Sharing knowledge is one of the most priceless gifts you could ever give. Someone’s life can change with just that one gift alone. I also believe that giving starts the receiving process.
I have recently experienced this with two of my students, where I shared a bit of knowledge and it has had an incredible impact on this life and how they look at future possibilities. This truly inspires me to continue on my journey and to keep sharing knowledge.
Till next time, keep sharing. Donna