Sunday, July 23, 2017

Embrace Change with Curiosity

What does this mean you may ask? "Embrace Change with Curiosity" 


What we all should know by the time we are adults if not before hand,is that change is inevitable. It happens in families and it also happens in our career. Some people have jobs that change continuously, some have lives where they move a lot so change happens in the surroundings where we live and new friendships are made along the way.

The change that I am speaking about is internal, it's the change that I personally had been reluctant to see up until this morning. Well maybe this occurred yesterday as I was reading the book "The road less traveled". For some months now I have been going through a very challenging time, and some of that time in dark patches and other in just stagnant frustration.  None the less at times I felt like a crazy person on a deserted island with only my thoughts. Not a pretty sight!

As a Trainer I often see what we refer to as light-bulb moments, so when this happens for myself I think I am a little slow at seeing it internally. But this morning was a massive light-bulb moment and here is what happened;
  • I realised my frustration about how I feel was futile and I dint need to understand what was going on internally. It just is what it is!
  • I then realised that I don't feel the same as I did 6 months ago because I am not the same person I was 6 months ago (a lot of shit has gone down since then) Growth!
  • Then it was that moment of awakening occurring at a rate that I don't feel I was keeping up with as I had not acknowledged the above, therefore how could I embraced it.
  • The weight that came off my shoulders was incredible, it was a great sense of freedom and acknowledgement that this is the normal process of growth. Easier to see externally :)
The old saying that "If you keep doing what you have always done you will keep getting what you have always got" could not be more true today. The fact that I didn't see I was doing the same and expecting the same was the block. 

To get to this point will be different for everyone but what I know is we all have the ability to get to the state of enlightenment with what ever challenges we have. What we do have to figure out is the how! 
For me it was letting go of the struggle to understand, walk in nature and freeing my constant thinking about what wasn't feeling good/balanced or why I wasn't feeling the same as I did even 3 months ago.

The simple truth is I'm not the same, I've changed/grown, evolved with the pain and discomfort of recent events. The specifics of the events are the story and telling the story again and again never helps, it keeps you stuck. 

I thank you sincerely for taking the time to read and reflect on this blog without judgment of my vulnerability to write about such personal pain.

Till next time, stay fabulous,

Donna Moulds

Sunday, July 9, 2017

Authentic Conversations Part 2

Why part 2......?

The real reason for this blog being revamped, re posted and updated is a personal lesson for me. Recently I have not been having the authentic conversations, with people I need to and in particular I have not been having the authentic conversations with myself. This has caused a great deal of pain for me and also significantly impacted my health both physically and mentally. So this was timely to reminder to myself to realign with my soul and nurture myself back to the place I am strong, centered and at peace.

Taking my power back and getting my authenticity on.....so to speak. Its important to realise we are all human and all have times of struggle, this is often surprising to me that the perception is some have it all together all of the time and this is just not true. Doing the work can be arduous at times but the payoffs are worth it. You are worth it!

In 2015 I first wrote about Authentic Conversations through my Blog, this reached a few people who I then spoke to in a more personal way as they were intrigued about what this really meant and wondered if it was as easy as it sounds. The other questions were around how to start to have these conversations and how will people react. More importantly I reinforced the fact that this would have an overall positive effect on their life and their health. When we are being authentic (our true self) we feel more balanced, we feel free of resentment and free from feeling anxious when we can not speak freely. 

A life without authentic conversations is like a life without bearing your soul.

When I speak from the heart in an authentic way I am free in my mind and body, its a weightlessness that sets me free from all fear.  False Evidence Appearing Real


As an adult educator I am always thinking about language and how we can lift people with our language, or how we can contribute to other peoples lives in a genuine way. One of the ways in which we can do this is through authentic conversations. An authentic conversation is one that comes from the heart and not so much the head. These conversations have a place in all realms of our life, business, personal, networking, even with a stranger. Authentic conversations are easy to have we just need to allow ourselves to not overthink or come from a fear based perspective (what will they think? how will they react, what if I upset someone).

What is an authentic conversation?


An authentic conversation is never a negative conversation it is a true conversation even with a tough subject. If you have to provide feedback to a staff member, if you have to tell a loved one you are feeling hurt, or even when you have to say no to someone. I personally have a life where I say what I need to say for the greater good. I tell my partner I'm disappointed that he didn't talk to me about something that we should be talking about in our relationship.
More importantly when you have an authentic conversation and say what you really need to say then you can let it go, you don't need to hold onto negativity or allow thoughts to distract you from enjoying life. Nor do you feel the need to stay mad at your loved one because you have said how you feel they have heard it and accepted this is your feeling and you can find a way to move on from this very quickly.

Try it....it really does work.

Authentic conversations in the workplace.


This can be more challenging because you have so many personalities to negotiate with. However an authentic conversation is using your personal power even when the team dynamics are challenging.

Authentic conversations need to be developed in a team where people do not need to feel threatened because you are being truthful (I don't think this is a good idea because........, can we look at this idea and see if it has any possibilities?)

An authentic conversation happens when someone compliments another person or provides feedback in a constructive manner. What amazes me regularly is when I get clients to do a SWOT analysis and they find it hard to come up with the weaknesses but struggle to find their own strengths. We have to overcome this stigma about openly saying we are skilled in an particular area of our role or multiple roles.

How to have an authentic conversation.

Authentic conversations are easier to have than you may think. Its about knowing what you want to say without ego or anger. Its about knowing how you feel about the situation or the emotion you may be experiencing. Its not about being right and its not about making someone else feel bad.

At workshop we recently held with Justin Herald he spoke in depth abut keeping it real and doing business in an authentic way. This was a great reminder "If something doesn't feel right don't do it".

It is about being real and discussing things that need to be discussed. Communication is one of the most powerful and useful tools we have. We also have the choice to communicate even if people don't want to listen we have the freedom to speak (we are not always heard).

Scenario:

Bill I really need to talk to you about something, is now a good time? Today when you raised your voice at Mary I felt it was inappropriate and I would like to know if you think their is a better way to approach a situation like this in the future. 

Can you tell me what was going on for you? 
How do you think Mary may have felt? 
Thank you for talking openly about this I really appreciate your honesty. 

When you are having an authentic conversation with someone it is important to take the time to ask good questions but also wait for the person to think about what you have asked. An authentic conversation is generated by speaking the truth, asking good questions and really listening to what the person has to say.

Take a few minutes and ask yourself, when was the last time I had an authentic conversation?

Authentic conversations start with yourself, being real with your internal dialog and then having a genuine conversation with others. Asking questions of yourself and seeking the answers. Could I have responded better, did i tell the truth in that situation or was I avoiding a reaction?

If you struggle to get answers maybe its time to seek some assistance. Some of the ways I am able to become more authentic are;
  • Time in reflection, sitting quietly and looking within. "why did I react in this way" "what must be going on for ??"whats really going on for me right now?
  • Meditation - for me this is key and on the beach is my bliss 
  • Talking to a mentor to gain a different perspective
  • Perceptual positioning (putting myself in the other person's shoes and also seeking wise council)
  • Identify and Remove FEAR False Evidence Appearing Real
If you would like to know more about this subject and feel your team could benefit from more authentic conversations, please contact us at train@mantratraining.edu.au we would love to be part of your staff development schedule in 2017/2018

Till next time stay strong and focused and most of all authentic.

Donna Moulds
#authenticconversations #mantratraining #trainingcoursescanberra #leadership #theresiliencemovement  #EOFY #2017

Sunday, April 9, 2017

Thinking outside the box.

what we lose along the journey of life.


Throughout our life we are faced with many situations and each situation we come face to face with requires different thinking. When we are babies we don't have to think to much as this is mostly done for us. Then we become toddlers and life has different meaning. We get to explore, we fall down and we learn how to become more independent. As the years pass we go though teenage stuff and then enter the big world of adulthood. Somewhere along the journey we seem to lose some of the resilience we were born with. You know when you start to walk you fall down 100 times and get back up 101 times. You fall off the swing and graze your knee yet you go back to the swing and get right back on with a laugh at how silly falling was. 

Fast forward a few decades and something is missing, we aren't the same resilient beings we were when we were young. Why is this? I often contemplate this for myself and I know that at times we take a turn in life that doesn't work out, and then another. Slowly but surely our confidence is chipped away  and we don't seem to spend a great deal of time building the muscle of resilience back up.

What I know for sure is that I see more and more people in my field both as colleagues and as student's feeling stressed, unworthy, even depressed and suffering from bouts of anxiety. This is certainly on the increase and terribly concerning for the next generation coming into the workforce. The ability to cope with change seems to be a real issue in today's workforce and in day to day life. Yet change is inevitable because life changes, love changes and careers change. 

This video is a a really cool example of how millennials are being perceived and some of the problems that are prevalent in today's world especially with social media and the the desire to be liked. Simon Sinek on Millennials in the Workplace. As you listen to Simon take note of what you personally resonate with and ask yourself how true this is for you or someone you know that is struggling in aspects of their life. As we know it's not just millennials who are struggling to find job satisfaction or even peace and happiness. As Simon points out Joy is one of those things that seems to be missing, joy in your relationships, joy in family interaction and joy in your career aspirations.

Learning to think outside the box     

What does it really mean to think outside the box? For me it means not getting stuck in a situation and having the awareness that there are always other perspectives. To have the knowledge that all situations will pass over time or with a different decision. A different decision could mean having that hard conversation to clear the air, or saying no instead of yes to please others. It can also mean you are getting better at listening to your gut and following your heart not other peoples desires.

For me personally I changed a number of aspects of my life not all at once but certainly at important times in my life where it was necessary to take a stand or change my path. I remember them like they were yesterday and in no particular order, I'll share some of them: 
  • I realised I didn't have to spend time with people I didn't want to.
  • Saying No was very important to my own well-being
  • The realisation that life is far to short and precious to be worried about the small stuff. If only I got this one sooner many things would have been different especially for my kids (no regret just acknowledgement)
  • No regrets in life just lessons to learn
  • Happiness is within me, if I attempt to seek this from outside of me it can also be taken away.
  • What you think of me is none of my business 
  • Try doesn't exist, either I do it or I don't, I can not try
  • Forgive yourself and others not for what it does for them but only for how it sets me free of negative emotions
  • The past does not equal the future, someone once explained to me that Depression is focusing on the past and anxiety is worry about the future. It is better to live in the present moment.
  • my own emotional intelligence can be my greatest asset
These are just a small number of things that I learned along the way and some of the lessons I have learned have been the greatest tools to become more resilient and think outside the box. By not constricting myself to thinking small and settling for anything less than I deserve for myself. I am the only person that should ever decide my worth, my happiness and my successes.  

Till next time stay strong, stay focused and love yourself deeply to build that resilient muscle. 

Keep your eye out for my next blog where I will have a survey, If you would like to take my brief survey to help me understand what content you want to read in my Blogs and membership sites jump right in as I would love to know how I can better serve my readers.

Donna Moulds
Building resilience beyond contemplation

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Vision + Planning + Productivity = Increased Results


What are the benefits of being a productive person?

To produce is to achieve what ever you want to achieve, it really is that simple! 

If you want to increase your fitness you must be productive in your exercise regime, if you want to write a book you must produce the biography, the love story or the self help book for your industry, one page or chapter at a time

The benefits of productivity are the results of what you are doing, so if you are consistently procrastinating because you want things to be perfect, you are not going to make progress (no action = no results). If you are working at perfecting everything before you move on; there are tasks you will never complete.  A truly productive person is looking for the results of their action or activity to be able to move forward. 

Here is an example of a perfectionists issue:
(Doris's problem) My website hasn't been launched yet as its not perfect, as a result of not launching my website I am not making money, I can't make any money if I don't launch my website, but it's not perfect. 
Solution - launch the site and make the changes as its being used, consumer use will identify areas for improvement and feedback will identify usability issues that web designers can fix on the go.  

As Jim Rohn and many other philosophers would say "you must sow the seeds to reap the rewards of your hard work". 

Why become a productive person?

If you sit back and reflect on your vision and your goals then the WHY becomes pretty clear.

Why become a productive person? So you can get done all the things that need to be done in the most efficient way possible. I'm not talking about cutting corners that you shouldn't be cutting, I'm talking about being so efficient that you then have more time to do the things you want to do that may not be career focused or income focused. Let me give you some examples,

  • I write my blogs early in the morning because I think more clearly in the morning, ideas flow and then I can get on with the day.
  • If you are in sales you have to be super productive because you only have so many hours in the working day to make calls and meet with prospective clients, so being productive prior to 9am is imperative in your planning, then making the most of the hours between 9-5 for income producing activity is going to mean greater opportunities to develop more revenue and build client relationships.
  • Planning the day before it starts, planning the month before it starts gives you greater focus and less opportunity for distraction and procrastination.
  • Using your diary as a tool to keep you on time and prepared for your meetings. If its in the diary stick to it. What has not been done needs to move to the next day, so you become more focused on completing the tasks each day as you know adding more to a full day can create pressure.
  • Being productive and ticking things off can provide a great sense of accomplishment
This is not a To Do list we are talking about here, this is a productive life that gives you balance and reduces pressure because you are getting all the things you need to get done, done.

Productivity increases when you are organised?

When you are organised and ticking the tasks off you are reinforcing in your own mind that you can be organised, that you are on the right path and that you are a step closer to achieving the goals that you set out to achieve.

If you are planning too many things in your day and can not possibly get them all done you are setting yourself up for failure. At times we also go in for the negative self talk and this is detrimental to becoming more productive.

If your reading this and saying I don't want to be more productive, I like how I do things, then stop reading, this is not the BLOG for you......and that's ok! 

If you do want know more, think about a few of the following tips to be able to get into a routine of increased productivity.

How to Become a Productive Person

To become a more productive person it is obvious you have to do differently to what you have done in the past. It is super important to find your own flow or best practice, because we all know what works for me may not work for you. To find my flow I have to give other strategies a go till I get one or more that work for me, you will need to do the same. Trial and error are the key here.
  • Think about what you want to achieve in your day the night before and jot some notes down. This is also helpful when you have a challenge you want to resolve, think of the problem and then ask for solutions, look at the challenge from different angles and then sleep on it. This is not worry, this is a solution finding technique.
  • Write down your top 5 tasks in order of priority, do the most challenging first to get it out of the way and ensure you are not procrastinating. (Eat the frog is a great E-book to help with procrastination)
  • Review your day and move anything outstanding to the next day as the high priority. 
  • Delegate what you can, to enable to you focus on the more important tasks.
  • Identify what needs to be done in business hours and what can be done in after hour depending on your job role. Prioritise your tasks in this way to ensure focus is maintained.
  • Review what you are doing and what is working, if something isn't working then adjust accordingly until you find your own flow and best practice to get the results you are looking for.

Vision + Planning + Productivity = Increased Results

Go forth and get great results, Donna Moulds

#mantratraining #success #

Other Blogs that may assist in productivity:

Goal setting and Vision Boards

Learn to do your best and not compare yourself to others

Success follows consistent action

Sunday, January 29, 2017

STOP COMPARING and DO YOUR BEST

Doing your best

 

In life and business we can get caught up in the game of competition, keeping up with others, meeting KPI's and earning more dollars. Competitiveness is a good thing if it aligns with your goals and values. Sometimes though we get beaten down with feelings of inadequacy because we are comparing our self to others opposed to doing our best and being proud of the progress we make. No matter how big or small, progress is progress, if it is moving you in the direction you want to go then be proud of this. Your level of progress also needs to be your measure and not of someone else.

Finding your best without holding others back or being held back

 

I'm not much of a runner and I have never been a runner. Even at school I was in the high jump and long jump where it was about small bursts opposed to long periods of running. Having said that I am starting to enjoy running and running for longer periods of time. The reason it's more enjoyable is I'm running my own race whilst doing the best I can. I still push and make progress but I'm not trying to be Usain Bolt or Melissa Breen, I am doing my best to be the best runner I can be.

As I continue my training for a big trek this year my partner and I go for a run and as I said, I am not a runner. So when I'm doing my best you may think that my partner is being held back as he can run faster and for longer than I can. We come up with a strategy that means we support each other and he does his best and I do mine. As I am running and get tired I slow down, and so that my partner isn't held back he runs ahead and then runs back toward me. So he is doing a greater distance but still supporting me and we are working out together which is important to both of us. Last time we ran I did 6km and he completed 7.7km. Likewise I am a stronger boxer and he had never boxed before so I support him to box with better technique and longer consistency in boxing and this pushes me and supports him to do his best.

Doing your best in business

 

Now use this analogy in your business or career, if you always do your best and seek to push yourself rather than comparing yourself to others you will have a greater advantage and be able to progress at a rate that may surprise you. It's also important to have a mentor or someone that is driving harder than you in business or a career. Your Mentor keeps you focused and you want this to be a driver, not a way to beat yourself up and not feel good enough.

If someone makes 50 sales calls a day and converts more than 60% of those calls into revenue, use that as a driver to measure your daily progress. Guaranteed when you use this as a positive you will get better results as you are doing your best. If you look at what someone else is doing and you don't use this as a driver in the forward direction, it will beat you and negative self talk will not support you to do your best.

Negative self talk
  • They have been doing this longer 
  • Ill never be as good on the phone
  • They don't have the history I have
  • They got better training than I did
And the list can be endless in how our negative self talk diminishes the knowledge that you are doing your best.

Self talk that drives
  • Wow they are fantastic on the phone, I can learn from this
  • I may not have gotten results today but tomorrow is another opportunity
  • I'm going to track every result till I turn 70% of my calls into revenue
  • Every day I get better at this
This list can be endless as long as you always do the best you can do and learn from yesterday.

7 Tips to always do your best;


  1. Plan the day before or the week before or even month before exactly what you want to achieve 
  2. Have good support around you, people who believe in you, inspire you.
  3. Write down all the things you do well and focus on those
  4. Build mental muscle every day, create a more resilient mindset
  5. Check in regularly to measure progress and adjust where you need to improve
  6. Its free to learn from the experts feed your mind with information that supports your journey  
  7. Ask this one question "Have I done the best that I can do with the resources I have at the time"
This is one of the most powerful questions I often ask myself. This keeps it real and the resources I have at the time will change as I grow and develop mental muscle, some of what I know now I didn't know 5 years ago....and that's ok.

Go do your best work and be the best version of you today.

Donna


Sunday, January 1, 2017

Just do It - The choice is yours

What gets your juices flowing?

Have you ever thought about doing something and you get this feeling inside that excites you? As you think about it it brings a smile to your face? You feel inspired to do it again and again.

Have you always wanted to travel somewhere, to see something or experience something but have never gotten around to it?

This can be known as procrastination, however it can also be something deeper than that too. When you think about these things you may feel some trepidation or have some negative self talk that takes over, you may even tell yourself some of these statements;

When the kids get older,
When I have more time,
When I earn a certain income,
When we are not in such a hurry,
My partner doesn't think its a good idea,
It was a silly idea anyway, who would want to do that?

This can be some of the self talk that we have that holds us back from just doing it. If I have learned anything over the past few years it's that life is way to short to put things off. Life can change in a heartbeat and you may not be able to go and do the things you want to do. It could be a number of things I haven't even mentioned here, take some time to write them down so you can reflect on this after you have finished reading my blog. Just do it!

This morning it's 6am and I am sitting on the beach as the sun comes up writing this blog....just to be able to do this makes me smile. It feels truly authentic to be doing what I love and to have set up my life to be able to write where I want, when I want.

When desire drives you


Let me just take you back a few years so you know that I walk the talk at about 75% percent of the time, and I am working towards walking my talk 100% of the time. More than 30 years ago I was drawn to Anzac day and was intrigued to hear the stories of the battles to better understand what it was all about, what this meant for us and our freedom. I don't recall marching in the Anzac parade as a child but I do recall my children always marching in the parade. I also recall my Uncle Rubin who was in one of the wars marching every year. This intrigued me and I then started thinking later in life about Kokoda and for about 3-4 years I had this deep desire in me to trek Kokoda but was scared to do this alone.

After a few very tumultuous years going through a divorce I decided it was time to step outside of my comfort zone and commit. On April 18th 2012 I flew out to Port Moresby to start my journey. It was scary and exciting all at the same time but I knew deep in side me it was something I had to do. This took between 6-9 Months of preparation and it was life changing but more importantly it was doing something I had a deep desire to do and just went for it.

Read a blog on my Kokoda journey part 1 

Read about Part 2 of my Kokoda journey

Making memories - Isn't this what life is all about? 


I wanted my Mum and Dad to have at least 1 overseas trip in their life as as they were creeping up to their 70's it was time to fulfill this dream. In October 2012 it was time to take Mum and Dad on a Cruise, a Carnival Cruise. Now cruises are actually more affordable than a holiday at the Gold Coast. Again self talk can dismiss the possibilities (its too expensive, we could never afford it).


Not only did we achieve this my Mum and Dad had the best time and I got to see them enjoy something they never thought possible. They visited Islands and watched us snorkel, tasted exotic foods and made memories they can cherish forever.


Whilst spending time at the coast with my family I loved the water and have a great fear of sharks and other deadly things in the ocean. I also had a desire to Kayak, safe and at a distance from biting  things. So in 2011 I created more business on the coast, was able to visit my family and learn how to kayak in Huskison NSW. This was in a beautiful area that was down calm waters as I built my confidence up. Now it is 2016 and I Kayak out in the open ocean, paddle board at the beach and snorkel in shallow wasters in the ocean. I am now also learning to swim in the ocean for better fitness and also I feel so peaceful swimming in a place I used to fear. 

Our Little piece of paradise


Another desire was to have a little getaway down the coast to be able to retreat to and have some down time, as my Dad would say you have to "work to live not live to work". Now I agree with this to a degree but I also know that I love what I do in my work and I don't feel its hard work. It also provides me with a life that I could never have imagined. This plan I worked on with my partner for about 12 months and we now have our own little getaway after some blood sweat and tears to make it ours. We often refer to this as our little piece of paradise and feel so grateful to have been able to create such a sanctuary.

Now there are lots of examples in my life where I just go for it and "Just do it" Jump out of a plane, change the direction of my business after losing 100K in income for the following year after government makes changes in our industry, trek Kokoda on my own without knowing a single person and lots more which will all be in my book, however my next journey will be in May 2017 where I will embark on a 800km walk "El Camino" Now this will be a significant journey and one I am extremely excited about.

So what have you been waiting for, what journey should you be experiencing? What conversations would you like to have that would get you more inspired to get started.  What could you do today to start a new movement in your life. Just in case you need a reminder life is pretty short so its time to take the bull by the horns and start doing the things you want to do, don't wait for something else to happen before you go after your desires.

Get started with a Bucket List  

The best way to get started is to write down a bucket list of 100 things you would like to do, 100 is not that many so it wont take you long to get there.
What books do you want to read, what movies or plays do you want to see, what experiences would you like to have? Anything is possible you just have to do it!

I once heard a saying that puts things into perspective for men who like fishing. If you love fishing but you only go fishing once a year and your in your 40's, at 80 you would have only gone fishing 40 more times. Ladies wear those shoes, don't wait for a special occasion and leave them hidden. What have you put off or what don't you think you deserve to experience? 

Till Next time, live passionately and make beautiful memories.....Just do it!

#mantratraining #lovethislife #success 

Donna Moulds


Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Coping with Change

Change is inevitable

This is true, it is going to happen, change is one of those things that is just going to happen, and sometimes change happens when we least expect it. Many years ago I was a Nutrimetics consultant, I had a favorite lipstick and I loved this shade, it was stunning and suited me to a tee. One day our new brochure came out for the new season and....well let's just say I was devastated. I could no longer order that shade......I was distraught to say the least. I even called Nutrimetics head office and asked if it was a mistake....they said no!

Now today I see that lipstick as a very silly thing and also the reaction I had to this change was a little over the top. Maybe it has something to do with my age and lack of worldly experiences, maybe it was a perception of loss of sales, I don't recall now what the drama was, it was just a drama and I adapted easily to the change.

Another experience I would like to share is the changes that occurred in our family boxing day 2014. The changes were more significant for my older brother and then the impact had a domino effect throughout the entire family. You see Boxing day 2014 my Brother was very ill and this resulted in him being in a coma for 11 days, the longest 11 days of my life and his of course. The point to this is after the Coma change was inevitable as life was not the same. He had to slow down, he had no choice, he had a long road of recovery in him. He also had a bunch of girls fussing over him and crying at the drop of a hat.....because we all love him.

So change was inevitable due to a situation that had occurred that was out of his control. Some would say he was placed in the hands of God, higher power, the love of his family and amazing medical practitioners.

Change occurs naturally

Over the past 47 years I have been a daughter, a sister, a mother, a wife and friend and many other things in between and I know that change has always been part of the journey. As we grow and evolve into a toddler from a baby, then to a young person then teenager to young adult we experience things that I would refer to as the natural evolution of life, growth and discovery 

What I know to be more true than ever before is that change will happen even when I resist, so it is energetically better to allow the natural changes to happen and then adapt to fight something that will eventually occur anyway.

Change is just a word, does it hold to much meaning for you at times?

The word change has become such a buzz word in the workforce we now do training courses on it. Change Management, Change Adaptation training, The word change has also brought with it the sense of uncertainty. Anyone that knows anything about the 6 Human needs (Anthony Robbins) or Mazlow's hierarchy of needs knows those that do not like uncertainty do not cope well with change.  when change occurs this can create negative feelings and trigger past experiences that were negative.

Let me be more specific about that. Change that is not clear, or can impact negatively on someone can be very emotive for them. 

Things that change naturally;

  • The weather
  • The tides
  • The sun rising and setting

Things that change that you can remove yourself from;

  • Other peoples moods and emotions
  • Negative people
  • Environments that don't serve you

Let go of what you have no or little control over.....just like the weather you have no control, so you don't even think about it as a stressful change.

Thriving not just surviving through change


Thriving is about embracing change and working through the emotions that change bring. In some cases a change can mean you feel elements of stress or even some anxious feelings, for others it can be exciting and something to look forward too.

Strategies I use for embracing Change

When I feel elements of stress or anxiousness about a change I sit in that discomfort for a short time, this allows me to feel what I'm feeling and working through what is going on for me. most of the time it is about uncertainty and what if questions come up. Other times its about a perception of what is going on, when the situation is broken down my perceptions are often not true.

Here is a model that is useful in a business environment and can be adapted personally. If you look at the example you can apply this to a personal situation by asking more specific questions for yourself;

                                         


ADKAR is a goal-oriented change management model that allows people/teams to focus their activities on specific results.  The model was initially used as a tool for determining if change management activities like communications and training were having the desired results during organisational change.

For example,
·          Awareness of the need to change
·          Desire to participate and support the change
·          Knowledge of how to change (and what the change looks like)
·          Ability to implement the change on a day-to-day basis
·          Reinforcement to keep the change in place

So remember change is inevitable and can be more positive with the approach that works for you. As Marie Forleo talks about "Everything is figuroutable"

This is a great Super Soul Sunday Video - Everything is figureoutable


Till my next blog stay brave and true to yourself, 

Donna Moulds